Some Things to Quit Worrying About
Working smarter, not harder can bring about great change
But the fact is, there are some things you just cannot change, no matter how hard you try.
In fact, continuing to beat your head against the wall is… well, not very effective, and pretty painful.
Perseverance and tenacity are only good qualities when the objective you are working hard to achieve is actually attainable.
There is a lot in life you cannot change.
1. You’re accountable to someone.
Probably a lot of someones, depending on where you are in your life. It can be tempting to take shortcuts, bend the rules or stretch your ethical boundaries in the pursuit of what you think is the ideal outcome, but we all answer to someone at some point.
2. You are not going to live forever.
Even in the midst of all the crazy, remember to take care of yourself. We push ourselves SO HARD; we’re constantly “On,” always connected, skip vacation time, and more. Americans are fantastic at working ourselves into the grave. You will not enjoy your tomorrow if you were too hard on yourself today, so lighten up.
3. You cannot please everyone.
Seriously, just stop. Trying to make everyone happy is a thankless, soul-sucking endeavor that will only leave you drained and miserable.
4. You will never catch up to the Jones’.
You are always going to know someone with a nicer car, bigger house, better job, hotter partner, etc. Quit wasting your time trying to be someone you’re not. Life is not a competition.
5. Holding that grudge is never going to have the effect you are hoping for.
Unless what you are after is prolonging your own pain and unhappiness. If that is what you’re after, keep it up!
6. You cannot control what someone else thinks.
You can suggest, demand, implore , and you can scream it at the top of your lungs, but you cannot always change another person’s mind. You cannot make anyone like, love or forgive you. You cannot win their respect if they are not willing to give it.
7. Yesterday is over. You cannot get it back.
There are no re-dos. Stop dwelling on the past; you cannot change it. Keep moving, do not live in the scrapbook
8. The World… Nope, you cannot change it.
It is nice and inspirational and all to think one person could actually change the world, but some things are just bigger than all of us. You can definitely make a difference in the world around you, that is not a problem. Just watch that you’re keeping your expectations of the impact you can actually have in check.
9. Where you came from.
Privilege is a real thing, there’s no denying it. You cannot do a thing to change where you came from and the circumstances or situation you were born into,but you control where you’re going. You might have to fight harder than others, and that sucks, but it is up to you to use what you might perceive as weakness or a detriment make it positive and make it work for you.
10. Nothing is ever private anymore.
This is not going to change; in fact, our privacy will continue to be eroded away in the years to come. Your e-Mails, cell phone use, photos, online footprint and more all tell their own stories with data. People do crappy things to each other for wacky reasons. You just have to assume that nothing is ever really private and conduct yourself accordingly if you do not want the skeletons in your closet spilling out one day.
11. You cannot get back what you have lost.
You can replace a lost investment, or find a new mate, but there’s no point trying to change the fact that sometimes, what’s lost is gone forever. This is especially true of relationships, they might be rekindled, but they will never be quite the same.
Quit beating yourself up and focus on developing the skills and traits that can make a real difference in your every day life.
Have a happy day.
By Larry Kim
Paul Ebeling, Editor
Editor’s Note: Larry Kim is the CEO of Mobile Monkey and founder of WordStream.