It is easy to hold a grudge, but whether it involves a friend, colleague, a co-worker or loved one, it can fill you with bitterness, keep you stuck in the past and lead to anxiety or depression.
That means the grudge holder the is suffering from the situation, and not the subject of your anger and irritation.
Besides the emotional toll, researchers from Glasgow Caledonian University and Edinburgh Napier University, in Scotland, found that holding a grudge can also heighten feelings of physical pain, even if that pain has nothing to do with the incident in question.
So, if your lower back is bothering you or you have the achiness of arthritis, your pain can feel worse when stewing over the grudge.
Letting go of a grudge starts with forgiveness. That does not mean excusing the behavior the other person exhibited, and you may never forget it, but if you can forgive the person for their mistake, you can break free of the hold he or she has had on your life.
The benefits are wide-ranging and immediate.
Making a conscious decision to let go of the anger and resentment that keeps one rooted in the past will allow you to focus on your present and what’s important to you today.
Letting go of grudges frees a person to focus on the positive relationships in life, the ones that bring true happiness and contentment. It also lessens feelings of anxiety and hostility, while improving self-esteem and health in general.
As you let go of grudges, they will no longer define you, and you will feel like a burden has been lifted from your shoulders.
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