Happy Couples Sleep Better

Happy couples make good bedmates. New research says that when happy couples sleep together, they tend to have more and less disrupted REM (rapid eye movement) sleep.

The REM phase of sleep is when we dream, it has been linked to emotion regulation, memory consolidation and creative problem-solving, the researchers said.

There is the notion that if you sleep with a partner, you might subjectively think that you slept well or better, but objectively, your sleep is more disturbed,” said the study’s lead author, Dr. Henning Drews, a resident and postdoctoral scholar at the Center for Integrative Psychiatry in Kiel, Germany.

But, he noted that the current study found that “if you want to share a bed with your partner, there is nothing to be said against it. It might even be very good for you.”

For the study, 12 young, healthy couples between 18 and 29 years old volunteered to spend four nights in a sleep lab. They had been sleeping together most nights for at least three months.

For 2 nights, the couples slept in different rooms. On another two nights, they slept together. Half of the group started apart, while the other 59% started the study together.

Using polysomnography, the researchers simultaneously measured what went on during sleep in each partner.

Polysomnography provides comprehensive measurements during sleep, including brain waves, breathing, movements, muscle tension and heart activity.

Based on their answers to a relationship questionnaire, the couples appeared to have very strong bonds.

When they slept together, both partners spent more time in REM sleep than when they slept apart, and their REM sleep was less disrupted. Interestingly, they also moved their limbs more often when sharing a bed, but this did not seem to disrupt REM sleep.

The researchers also found that sleep patterns appeared to synchronize when couples slept together. How closely they did so appeared to be linked to the strength of a couple’s relationship.

There are likely at least 2 reasons why couples sleep better together, Dr. Drews said.

REM sleep is a state during which the physiological capacity of the body to maintain its temperature is reduced. Therefore, the presence of a partner might help to stabilize one’s own body temperature,” he said.

Another reason is psychological comfort. Relaxing and safe environments promote REM sleep, so sleeping with another person might help to create a feeling of safety.

Jessy Warner-Cohen, a senior psychologist at Long Island Jewish Medical Center in New Hyde Park, New York, reviewed the findings.

This study highlights the role of social support on sleep quality,” she said. “It finds that sleeping with one’s spouse, especially those in deeper quality relationships, [results in] better quality sleep.”

Dr. Drews theorizes that older couples in happy relationships would derive a benefit from sleeping in the same bed. But couples whose relationships are not good likely wouldn’t see the sleep benefit. The researchers hope to do a larger, more diverse study in the future.

The Big Q: What about single people, are they doomed to poorer sleep?

The Big A: Dr. Drews said the couples’ benefit was in better and longer REM sleep, so a whole night’s shuteye is not affected. Singles and anyone else who wants to improve REM sleep should follow good sleep hygiene by “creating a sleep-promoting environment,” he said. That means no stressful activities before sleeping, no noisy bedrooms and no bright lights.

Lauren Broch, a psychologist at Northwell Health Sleep Disorders Center in Great Neck, New York, pointed to both strengths and weaknesses in the study.

The strengths include a well-controlled lab-setting with good control of the variables that often disrupt sleep,” Ms. Broch said. “However, the small sample size, young age and limited number of nights make it difficult to generalize such findings” to other groups of people.

She noted the findings raise important questions about how social support and relationship quality might impact sleep, mental health and general well-being.

The findings were published on 25 June in Frontiers in Psychiatry.

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